Openforwards Weekly Round Up of ideas from around the world to help you work, love, play and feel better
Are you invisible in the conversation?
Our society continues to suffer harmful power imbalances. These imbalances operate within many arenas, including differences in gender, ethnicity, age, sexuality and socio-economic status. And, one of its most powerful weapons is language.
Despite the growth of special interest groups, language continues to slow the progress of acceptance and equality. Building on the work of the feminist writer, Julia Penelope, the author Jackson Katz shows us how language functions to protect the perpetrators of abuse.“When people hear the words ‘gender issues’, men switch off because they think it means ‘women’s issues.” When people hear ‘race issues’, white people switch off, because they think it means ‘black-issues’. When people hear ‘LGBT’, straight people switch off, because they think it’s not to do with them.
Those who perpetrate abuse become invisible in the conversation. What can we ALL do about this?
As someone who falls into the category of “white male”, it is often my job to get out the way. What I mean is that I am not the best person to call-out white male privilege. Although these power imbalances disgust me, my privilege blinds me to the breadth and depth of prejudice that is experienced by many people.
On the other hand, I believe I have a responsibility to talk to other white men about these matters. If I don’t, then I remain complicit in the patterns of behaviour that perpetuate prejudice. It’s one thing I can do. If I can stand up against language that is sexist, misogynistic, racist, homophobic, transphobic, ageist and critical of people who have little money, then I will be making a contribution that is in no way minor.
Words are powerful. They can be kind, or they can be cruel. And these effects make a difference.
This week, I’m sharing several articles and podcasts authored by women. The Openforwards’ weekly round-up of ideas from around the world to help you work, love, play and feel better.
The Openforwards Weekly Round-up
- The Me You Want to Be. Article by Jill Stoddard, author of Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance.
- Single life is a happy life. Article by Bella DePaulo, author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After
- Handling the complexity of multiple roles in parenting. Article by Koa Wittingham, specialist in developmental psychology and author of ‘becoming mum’.
- Outsmart your Smartphone: new book published by New Harbinger publications written by technology consultant, Tchiki Davis…”…a refreshingly honest how-to-guide that will help you build connections in a screen-obsessed world
- Trauma doesn’t define you. Podcast interview with Robyn Walser.
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