“According to Harvard Business Review, the main reason people leave their jobs is that they don’t like their boss.
There are other reasons. No opportunity for growth or someone offers you ‘a better gig’ are just a couple. Either way, people quit when the bond with their employer is weak. So, naturally, you start to look elsewhere.
We all need to feel like someone cares. Whether this is at home, at work or from the powers that be. It makes a difference to us.I know that when I feel cared about, it changes what goes on inside me. I feel more energised, more willing to contribute and focused on doing the important stuff. I’m more hopeful.
Compare this with when I’ve felt ignored – I’m irritated, frustrated or distracted. When my boss has shown little interest in improving the way we do things, it has made me angry. When my boss has been absent or unavailable, I’ve yearned for a better replacement. And when my boss has put their own needs or the needs of higher management before the needs of our clients, patients or students, I’ve complained. And, to my disappointment, what I’ve said has often fallen on deaf ears.
Standing up for Myself
Now when I think about standing up for myself, I think about the great leaders of our world who have stood up to oppression and won. People like Aung San Suu Kyi, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, Wangari Muatthai, Victor Frankl, Maya Angelo and Malala Yousafzai. They’ve stood up to suffering by being brave and being kind. We don’t think of these people as aggressive.”
Check out the rest of this article and discover the Five Assertiveness Plays to get your boss (and others) to listen to you. See what you think.
Check out this week’s Openforwards’ round-up of ideas from around the world to help you work, love, play and feel better.
The Openforwards Weekly Round-up
- Five Assertiveness Plays to get your boss to listen to you. Article on the Openforwards blog by Jim Lucas.
- ‘Managing Mummy rage’. Australian Podcast hosted by Amelia Phillips. In this wonderful episode, Amelia interviews Psychologist Amanda Donnet about why parenting can bring up overwhelming emotions like anger and rage, how we can manage them when they arise and why you’re not alone (for DADDIES too!).
- Words in my Life. Article in The Irish Times exploring a woman’s experience of living for two years with the hope of pregnancy and suffering the pain of miscarriage.
- How to be a friend to yourself: Youtube video by The School of Life exploring how self-compassion provides a viable basis for an emotionally fulfilled life.
- Desert Island Discs interview with actor Stephen Graham. Best known for his roles in This is England and the gritty BBC cop drama, Line of Duty. Among many lovely stories, Stephen shares his failed attempt at suicide. Thank you Stephen; I’m grateful for your openness on this matter.